10 Questions Singles should Ask before saying "I DO"

Another message by Dr. Harold Sala deals with the topic of singleness and if someone wanted to decide to leave the ranks of singles and soon be identified with a partner.

What are the 10 questions one must ask his/herself whether or not to marry or be involved in a serious relationship? The following are the 10 questions and my own thoughts regarding them.

Q1. Do we share a common faith in Jesus Christ?
- To be honest, this is one of the questions I ask myself whenever I'm interested with a lady. I believe that this would affect almost everything in our future.

Q2. What do we have in common?
- This is very basic, we need to share something in common like sports, hobbies ,etc. There must be something that we could do together in order for our love to grow.

Q3. Can I love this person as she is?
-Trying to change a person or hoping you could change a person after you get married is wrong.

Q4. What attracts me to this person?
If my answers were just more of the physical aspect, then it must be just an infatuation. I honestly believe that an average girl becomes more attractive if she possess that inner beauty that springs up from the kindness of her heart.

Q5. Does this person(relationship) complement me and add to my life or in this relationship a one-way transaction?
-Well, somehow related to question 3. Simply putting all the effort and thinking that you're the only one who could help the person is quite hard and frustrating.

Q6. Do we share common views on commitment?
-My future wife must value what I value. I don't want to be trying to be tight with my integrity trying hard to uphold and maintain it and marry a gossip. Gets?

Q7. Are our family backgrounds compatible?
-Specially here in the Philippines, I could see that men don't just marry the girl he marries her plus her family.

Q8. Am I willing to be treated as her parents treat each other?
-sad to say but there a greater chance for history to repeat itself. we tend to reenact how we were treated.

Q9. How will the person I am thinking to spend the rest of my life with respond to trouble and pressures?
-Dr. Harold Sala explained it further with the following related questions: does she nurture resentment? can I easily ask forgiveness from her? can we pray together in the time of crisis?

Q10. Do I really know this person?
-After answering all the previous questions, it is time to assess whether or not you really know the person. I still have to decide...

Winning your Inner Struggles as a Single

Yesterday, I was able to attend Dr. Harold Sala's speaking engagement regarding the how to win one's inner struggles as a single.

During his talk he mentioned seven(7) struggles most singles face.
1.Negative Attitudes
2.Loneliness
3.Handling Sexual Frustration
4.Feeling that God is indifferent with one's need of a mate.
5.Handling Economic Problems
6.OPE "Other People's Expectations"
7.Lack of Direction/Purpose

The way he explained was really great specially when he backs it up with real-life examples. I honestly agree with his points and the solutions and addressing the struggles.